Self Love: The #1 Thing That Transformed My Mindset
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I know that self-love can be really difficult. Like…how fluffy is the idea that we should“love ourselves more”??
Sure it’s a fluffy idea, but at the same time, when we lack self-love, it’s way too easy for us to be trapped in this negative mindset and negative thought patterns that are simply a disservice to our life and hold us back in so many different areas.
I’ll give you some real talk: I lived most of my life NOT loving myself. I had absolutely no idea what it would even FEEL like love myself. That concept was just so foreign to me.
I know so many of you can relate to this and that’s why in this episode of Embrace Your Real, I’m going to share the most influential thing that has transformed your mindset and helped me to actually cultivate SELF LOVE.
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TRANSCRIPT:
Hey, Hey, beautiful human. Can I steal five minutes of your time? I have something super important to share with you, but I promise I'll be really quick. You're listening to my weekly bonus episode of Embrace Your Real with me, Julie Ledbetter. I'm about to give you a quick tip for building your confidence, honoring your body and unconditionally loving your authentic self. Stay tuned. If you're ready to embrace your real, let's get it, let's go.
Hello and welcome back to another bonus episode of the Embrace Your Real podcast. Ooh girl, I am so pumped for today's episode. What's one of the most influential things that has transformed your mindset when it comes to self love? I get this question a lot, and honestly, this is something that I wish I would have known in my late teens, early twenties, and even have to remind myself now as I am in my thirties, which I can't believe I'm saying that. But I'm in my thirties, so here we are, I'm embracing in my real. I know that self love can feel really difficult. Like how fluffy is the idea that we need to love ourselves more? Sure, it's a fluffy idea, but at the same time, when we lack self-love it's way too easy for us to be trapped in this negative mindset and this negative thought patterns that are simply not serving us in our life and they're holding us back in so many different areas.
I'll give you some real talk. I lived the majority of my life, not loving myself. I absolutely had no idea what it would even feel like to love myself, the concept was just so foreign to me. And I know that many of you listening can relate to this. And so that's why in this episode, I'm going to be sharing with you the most influential thing that has transformed my mindset and it can actually help you cultivate more self-love in your life. But before I do, I have to share the super-sweet review. It comes from JT Shay. She says, encouraging, I love listening to these podcasts, I look forward to them every week. Julie keeps it real. This podcast has changed my perspective on health, fitness and food for the better. I always feel so encouraged after listening and she makes things so easy to understand and follow such an amazing listen. If you're looking to boost your confidence, feel good in your own skin and get motivated to honor your body be sure to tune in. Thank you so much for the review, I appreciate you so so much. If you could scooch over to Apple podcast type in, Embrace Your Real, make sure you are subscribed to the podcast. And if you scroll all the way down, you can actually see the rate and review that really does help us out in the podcast world.
So let's dive into today's bonus episode. So how did I transform my mindset to actually start loving myself? Well, one of my mentors a while ago told me if you wouldn't say it to your best friend or your daughter, don't say it to yourself. And I'll be honest, this really put it into perspective. But more so as I've gotten older and I've now have nieces and nephews and people in my life that I love so much, it has opened my eyes to a whole new way of thinking. Although I currently at this moment, don't have a daughter or a child right now. I do, like I said, have a niece and I have so many best friends and best friends who have kids and family that I think so highly of.
So any time I truly have a negative thought about myself, whether it's in fitness or my body or my marriage or my business or whatever it is, I try to remind myself of this question. Would I say this to Ava? My niece, would I say this to my best friend? To the person that I love so much? And if the answer is a flat-out no, which intuitively we know these things, then I need to remind myself to get it out. Then I just tell myself plain and simple stop thinking it, it's not worth your time. I would never tell my best friend that she isn't good enough. I would never tell my niece, Ava, that she isn't pretty enough. I would never tell anyone that their thighs are too big, their abs aren't showing enough, their arms are too flabby. I would never in a million years say any of those things, I would never tell them that they're too dumb to pursue this opportunity. I would never tell them that they failed too many times to try again. So why is it okay for me to say these things to myself? It truly isn't. Just how it's never okay to say that to somebody else, it's never okay to say it to yourself.
So let's say you have a thought of I'm not good enough or I'm fat or I'm not pretty. First ask yourself, would I say those things to my daughter? Or would I say those things to my best friend or my niece, or fill in the blank of someone that you love. Then ask yourself, how would you respond if they were saying that about themselves? Most likely you would tell them all the things that make them more than enough, or you would tell them that they're absolutely crazy for thinking that they are fat or that their size doesn't matter. You would tell them how gorgeous they are, how smart they are, how incredible they are. You would shut them down instantly and you would tell them how freaking amazing they are. So if that's what you would do to your best friend or to your daughter or to your niece or whoever it is, fill in the blank, you have to start doing that to yourself when these same negative thoughts arise. Respond to yourself in the same way that you would respond to your best friend.
Honestly, pausing and becoming more aware of the thoughts that you're having and actually responding to them in a loving way, can literally be the most transformative thing that you have ever done in your life. I know it because I've lived it. I want to challenge you to give it a try.
Be sure to take a screenshot of this episode and let me know what you think of it. Remember that what you tell yourself is not always the truth. It's so important that we step out of ourselves and start looking at ourselves more objectively so that we can recognize the lies, the negative thoughts, the negative thought patterns that we have and address them head on. If you love this episode, I know you will also love episode 85, what would you do if you loved yourself more? I will link in the show notes below. If you have somebody in your life right now that you feel like would just need this quick five minute pep talk, be sure to send it their way, you can copy the link, send it in a text message, you can post it up on your story, tag me, Julia Ledbetter, tag, Embrace Your Real. We love seeing your aha moments, we love putting faces to names of people tuning in. Thank you so much for tuning into this week's bonus episode and I will talk to you guys in the next one.
All right sister, that's all I got for you today, but I have two things that I need you to do. First thing, if you're not already following me on the gram, be sure to do so, Julie A Ledbetter. Yes, it's with an A in the middle, for that daily post-workout real talk, healthy tips and tricks and honest accountability to keep your mind and heart in check. The second thing, be sure to subscribe to Apple podcasts, to never miss an episode. Thank you so much for joining me, it means the absolute world. And I'm going to leave you with one last thought. The most beautiful women that I have met in my life are the ones who are completely confident and secure in being authentically themselves. Remember that beauty goes so much deeper than the surface. So go out there and embrace your real because your worth it.