Removing Negative People From Your Life
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You are the sum of the five people you associate with most (cliche, I know). But this stresses the importance of surrounding yourself with people who reflect the person you want to become. So let me ask you this: Are the deepest relationships in your life helping you or hurting you?
In this episode of Embrace Your Real, I encourage you to take a deep look into the relationships you have in your life and evaluate what they are contributing to your life. I chat with you about why it’s not only OKAY to remove negative relationships from your life, but why it’s absolutely mandatory to remove them from your life if you want to truly embrace your real. Life is too short to spend time with people who make you feel worse about yourself, right?
TRANSCRIPT:
Hey, hey, beautiful human. Can I steal five minutes of your time? I have something super important to share with you, but I promise I'll be really quick. You're listening to my weekly bonus episode of Embrace Your Real, with me, Julie Ledbetter. I'm about to give you a quick tip for building your confidence, honoring your body, and unconditionally loving your authentic self. Stay tuned if you're ready to embrace your real, let's get it, let's go.
Hello and welcome back to the Embrace Your Real Podcast. Today I'm chatting all about negative people. The more specifically how it's not only okay to remove negative people from your life, but it's absolutely mandatory. All right? Literally I'm giving you permission in this episode to do a friend detox if you need to, but before I dive into the bonus episode, it would mean the absolute world to me if you press pause and subscribe to the podcast, that way you never miss a future episode with me and you officially join the Embrace Your Real community. All right, let's get right into the episode.
Albert Einstein said it best, "Stay away from negative people. They have a problem for every solution." As cliche as it might sound, you are the sum of the five people that you associate with most, which means you need to surround yourself with people who are a reflection of the person that you want to become. I don't know about you, but I like to spend my time with people who are smart, driven, like-minded, but also help expand my perspective and horizon. Let me ask you this. Who are those five people for you? Think about them. Visualize them. Think about their names. After you have those five people, I want you to look at their lives. Do they reflect the person that you want to become?
You see, the deepest relationships that you have in your life should be helping you, not hurting you. As you're visualizing those five people, I'm going to ask you a couple of questions. Do they contribute to your life? Do they make you feel good about yourself? Do they fill your confidence or do they take away from it? Do they encourage you, support you or inspire you? Are they helping you align your actions with your goals or preventing you from going in the direction that you want to go? Are they helping you grow, learn or explore? Ultimately, do they make you a better person? Now I know that those are some deep questions. If you need to press pause and really think about it, please do so.
This is a time that you really need to ask yourself if this person is truly a reflection of the person that you want to become. If not, I officially challenge you to do a friend detox. Seriously evaluate all the closest relationships that you have in your life. If these friends are adding more negativity than positivity to your life, it's time to let them go. Not all relationships need to last forever. People come into your life for a reason, but not all people are meant to stay and you don't need to force them to stay if they aren't meant to. Listen up. Life is too short to spend time with people who suck the happiness out of you. Life is too short to spend time with people who don't help you grow. Life is too short to spend time with people who make you feel worse about yourself.
Girl, life is too short. No one is forcing you to be friends with anyone and not being friends with everyone doesn't make you a bad person. Hmm, that's for me. It's okay to be picky with who you spend your time with. It's okay to remove friends from your life. Compromising your own happiness and growth only to avoid hurting someone else's feelings is not worth it because when you free yourself from negative people, you free yourself to be you. You free yourself to actually embrace your real and it's the only true way to live. Choose friends who you are proud to know, people who you admire, who love and respect you. People who make your day a little brighter simply by being in it.
I love this quote. Show me your friends and I will show you your future. I feel like that's such an applicable quote to this topic because truly our friends really do dictate our future. They dictate our now moments, which eventually turn into our future. So I know that this episode can be hard to think about especially with people in your life, but girl, you got goals, you got dreams. If you truly want to be the woman that you visualize yourself being, strong, confident, empowered, achieving those goals, conquering the things that you have always set out to do, you've got to align yourself with people who will help you, people who will inspire you, who will challenge you.
And it's okay to remove people from your life. Not all relationships need to last forever. Again, some people come into your life for a reason, but not all people are meant to stay. I hope that this encouraged you, it challenged you and inspired you, and I will see you guys in the next episode. I love you. Bye, bye.
All right sister, that's all I got for you today, but I have two things that I need you to do. First thing, if you're not already following me on the gram, be sure to do so, Julie A. Ledbetter. Yes, it's within A in the middle for that daily, post-workout real talk, healthy tips and tricks and honest accountability to keep your mind and heart in check. The second thing, be sure to subscribe to Apple Podcast to never miss an episode. Thank you so much for joining me. It means the absolute world, and I'm going to leave you with one last thought.
The most beautiful women that I have met in my life are the ones who are completely confident and secure in being authentically themselves. Remember that beauty goes so much deeper than the surface, so go out there and embrace your real because you're worth it.