Real Talk For The Woman Who Doesn’t Feel Like Herself Right Now…
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Alright sister, today I’m here to bring some real talk for the woman who doesn’t feel like herself right now.
For the woman who feels unmotivated, who is lacking excitement and passion, who never feels like she has energy, who feels completely OFF, who just doesn’t feel anything like who she truly is. In fact, I’m going to share a 3-step process with you that can help bring you back to YOU again.
Here’s a quick recap of the process I discuss in this episode…
Give yourself some grace.
Prioritize yourself, your needs, and your happiness.
Try something new.
A final thought on not feeling like yourself…When I’m personally feeling off, movement is the number one thing that brings me back to ME. That’s why I have vowed to honor my body with movement for at least 30 minutes daily so I KEEP feeling like ME. I challenge you to give it a try with my Movement With Julie workout app! Check it out, here!
TRANSCRIPT:
Hey, hey, beautiful human. Can I steal five minutes of your time? I have something super important to share with you, but I promise I'll be really quick. You're listening to my weekly bonus episode of Embrace Your Real with me, Julie Ledbetter. I'm about to give you a quick tip for building your confidence, honoring your body and unconditionally loving your authentic self. Stay tuned if you're ready to embrace a real. Let's get it, let's go.
Hello and welcome back to another bonus episode of the Embrace Your Real podcast. Today, I'm going to bring you some real talk for the woman who doesn't feel like herself right now, for the woman who maybe feels unmotivated or who's lacking excitement and passion, who never feels like she has energy or just feels completely off. In today's episode, I'm going to be sharing a three-step process with you that can help bring you back to you again. Are you ready to hear it? Before I dive in, I have to share this super-sweet review. It comes from Jess and Cricket. She says, "Chills. I've been listening to Julie since it started the year and her podcast is what I listened to on my drive to the gym every morning to start the day with a mindset of gratitude and motivation and self love. Her podcasts are nothing but beautiful truths that every woman need to hear.
The self-sabotage episode brought me to tears because I have been struggling feeling confident going for the next step in my career and coming up with every excuse to not go for the interview, to not ask for the chance for the job that I want. She's absolutely right that everyone has a passion for a reason, and everyone has their skills in life for a reason and we should go for it. We need to be our own cheerleader and have belief in ourselves. Today, I will be applying for the job and taking a chance on myself. Thank you, Julie."
Oh my goodness, girl. First and foremost, I need to say I am so dang proud of you for taking the leap of faith. I know that it can feel so scary, but what's even more scary and what has allowed me to take so many chances in my life and to put myself out there is because I ask myself, "Is it going to be more scary than me getting to the end of my life and regretting not taking action?" That question alone can help reframe everything in my mindset, and that's where I say, "Oh, heck no. I'm not going to get to the end of my life and say, "Man, I wish I did this. I wish I went after this. I wish I didn't care so much about my mom thought of me or what my sister thought of me or what my coworker would think of me or what social media would think of me."
Instead, I want to get to the end of my life and say, "I tried, I took a chance on myself. I am proud of myself. I put myself out there and I got to experience things that I never would have been able to experience if I wouldn't have put myself out there." So I am so dang proud of you. We are cheering you on and I am hoping for the best for you, my girl.
Okay. So let's dive into the three-step process. Step number one, you have to give yourself grace. You have to know sometimes we're going to feel tired, exhausted, lethargic, unmotivated, unproductive, and uninterested. It's going to happen and when it does, we need to realize that that is okay. There's nothing wrong with you. Really, there's nothing wrong with you feeling this way. We can't expect ourselves to be at our highest frequency every single second of every day of our lives. We're going to have highs and we're going to have lows. That is a part of life. So if you're feeling off, first you have to give yourself grace. Instead of beating yourself up for feeling this way, ask yourself, dig deep, ask yourself why are you feeling this way? Don't bully yourself, but try to understand yourself. Once you have an understanding of why you're feeling the way that you're feeling, you can ask yourself, "Why am I feeling this way, and what does my body and what does my mind need?"
Do you need more rest? Do you need alone time? Do you need a vacation? Do you need to be nourishing your body better or moving more? What do you need? Instead of telling your mind and body constantly what you think it needs, listen. Your body will always tell you. You'll always have this intuition as to what it actually needs. Personally, I pray. I ask God for wisdom. I say, "God, what is it that I'm needing right now? Please reveal it to me." Sometimes it's through a thought. Sometimes it's through a person. Other times it's just me sitting in that moment and allowing myself to maybe journal or pray or just think out loud and, always, an answer will always come. Then you have to give your body and your mind what it's asking for.
Number two, put yourself first again. I think many times we get away from feeling like ourselves because we get away from prioritizing ourselves. If you're feeling off, you have to prioritize yourself and put yourself first. Putting your needs first, putting your happiness first, your wellbeing first can be hard. I know it sounds like it's selfish, but the cliche saying is you can't pour from an empty cup. You can't show up as your best self for others if you can't even show up as your best self for yourself. Let me say that again. You cannot show up as your best self for others if you can't even show up as your best self for yourself. The more you feel like you, the more you're going to be able to show up better for those who you love. So really, it's not selfish at all. It can actually be the most selfless act that you take because when you're putting yourself first, you actually recognize that you are able to come to others in your best capacity.
Start setting boundaries, start saying no first. No to everything and then weigh it and then say yes if you really feel like you want to go after it. Start pushing pause in your to-do list or put your needs at the top of your to-do list first. Make appointments yourself for yourself. Ask for help, go to bed early, move your body, nourish your body, do something you love daily. Give yourself rest. I want you to push pause on this episode right now and I want you to think about three things that you need to start doing right now to start putting yourself first again. Maybe it's one of those things that I just listed off, or maybe it's completely different. Whatever it is, I need you to define right now. Moral of the story, put yourself first and continue to put yourself first until you feel like yourself again, and then continue to put yourself first so that you can continue to feel like yourself.
Number three, try something new. Everything in life is constantly changing, including ourselves, our seasons, the situations and experiences that we're going through. So that may mean that trying the same things the old you used to do to feel like you may not be the answer. The person that you're becoming may need, want or love new things, so don't be afraid to explore and find what the new you or right now in this season of life is asking of you. Maybe the new you needs an extra hour of sleep in the morning, or maybe the new you needs less cardio or more strength training. Maybe the new you needs more calories daily, or maybe the new you needs more or less social interactions. I need you to take time right now to figure out what you need.
The old you might needed all things. The old you might need things that right now you don't actually need. So don't be scared to take risks. Don't be scared to try something new because you never know the joy or happiness or fulfillment or passion that it could bring you. I think oftentimes we get stuck in these old ways because we say, "Oh, well, I tried that in the past and it just didn't work." Well, maybe you're in a new season. Maybe you're in a new thought pattern. So I want you to take some time to figure out what you need right now. And don't judge yourself. It could be totally different. It could be scary to try it, but here's the thing. You never know until you try something. So I encourage you to try something new.
So there you have it. Those are my three steps to helping you feel like you again. Let me give you a quick recap. Number one, give yourself some grace. Number two, prioritize yourself, your needs and your happiness, and number three, try something new. A final thought on not feeling like yourself. So for me personally, when I'm feeling off, movement is the number one thing that brings me back to me because when you move your body, you change your mindset and that's why I have vowed to honor my body with movement for at least 30 minutes daily. It just helps me keep feeling like me and also of my best ideas and some of my best dreams have come when I'm moving my body. So if that's you, if you are in a season of life where you're like, "Yes, maybe I just need to try moving my body more consistently."
If you're needing a program or something to follow, inside my Movement with Julie app, I give you 30 minute variations for every single workout, so there's never an excuse to not work out or honor your body with movement. Plus, for less than a buck a day, you get five brand new workouts every single week. All you need is your body weight, a pair of dumbbells and a small space inside your house. The ladies within this community are unmatched. I'm telling you it is going to be the best $20 that you could ever spend on allowing yourself to feel more like yourself and to better yourself and to honor your body. So if you want to learn more, you can actually head over to movementwithjulie.com/info. Again, that's movementwithjulie.com/info, or you can check the show notes for that link as well.
I hope that you enjoyed this episode. I hope that it brought something to you. I would love to know what came from this episode. So be sure to screenshot this. You can post it up on your story. Tag me, Julie Ledbetter, tag embrace your real, send it to a friend, send it to a coworker. I sincerely appreciate you spreading the message of Embrace Your Real. I love you so much and I know that you can get back to feeling like yourself. You just got to prioritize yourself a little bit more and understand what you're needing in the season of life. I'll talk to you guys in the next episode. Bye.
All right, sister. That's all I got for you today, but I have two things that I need you to do. First thing, if you're not already following me on the 'gram, be sure to do so, juliealedbetter. Yes, it's with an A in the middle, for that daily post-workout real talk, healthy tips and tricks and honest accountability to keep your mind and heart in check. The second thing, be sure to subscribe to Apple podcasts to never miss an episode. Thank you so much for joining me. It means the absolute world and I'm going to leave you with one last thought. The most beautiful women that I have met in my life are the ones who are completely confident and secure in being authentically themselves. Remember that beauty goes so much deeper than the surface, so go out there and embrace your real because you're with it.