7 Things You Need to Do to Be More Authentic Daily
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Do you wish you could show up more authentically, but don’t know how?
Do you change yourself based on who you are with or what you are doing?
Do you sacrifice parts of yourself simply for the sake of others?
If you answered yes, this episode is for you because I'm going to dive into 7 things you need to do and also need to avoid in order to show up more authentically daily!
After listening to this episode, I need you to ask yourself these questions...
How many of these things are you ACTUALLY doing?
Which ones are you going to work on changing!?
I challenge you to actually take action, sister!
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TRANSCRIPT:
Hey, Hey, beautiful human. Can I steal five minutes of your time? I have something super important to share with you, but I promise I'll be really quick. You're listening to my weekly bonus episode of Embrace Your Real with me, Julie Ledbetter. I'm about to give you a quick tip for building your confidence, honoring your body and unconditionally loving your authentic self. Stay tuned if you're ready to embrace your real. Let's get in and let's go.
Do you wish you could show up more authentically, but just don't know how? Or do you change yourself based on who you're with or what you're doing? Do you maybe sacrifice parts of yourself simply for the sake of others? If you answered yes, this episode is for you. I'm going to be diving into seven things you need to do, and also what you need to avoid in order to show up more authentically daily. But before I dive into the episode, I wanted to share this review. It comes from S_PLETI389. They gave a five star review and said, "The best. Love this podcast so much. I had been following Julie on Instagram for a while, and finally gave the podcast a listen. It's so refreshing to hear her authentic advice. I look forward to each episode."
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Number one, don't feel like you need to please others. Any other people pleasers out there? I for sure have people pleasing tendencies, but if you are a people pleaser, then you are not being authentic. If you drop your priorities, your values, your needs, your wants, your goals or whatever it is to please others constantly on a daily basis, then you're not showing up as your most authentic self. Sure, we do need to please others. I more so mean we need to sometimes compromise. Sometimes we need to be selfless. We need to do things that maybe we don't want to do, but we know are important. I just want to make sure you don't lose yourself just for the sake of making other people happy. Be yourself and then make other people happy. There's a difference between being authentic and being selfish. You are not selfish just because you are no longer a people pleaser.
Number two, do not let others disrespect your boundaries. But first in order for others to not disrespect your boundaries, you have to know and have boundaries in your life. If you don't have boundaries in your life, I need you to take the time to figure them out. Figure out what doesn't make you happy, figure out why it doesn't make you happy and then put a boundary in place. Figure out what's important, what are values that you have and put a boundary in place, whether that's professional, personal. There are so many different things in our life that require and should have boundaries. And yes, it might be messy. And yes, it might be scary to set it. But when you do enforce these boundaries, you have to remember that the only people who will likely have a problem with you starting to enforce these boundaries were the people that we're taking advantage of the boundaries to begin with. The people who actually care about you will gladly respect them. I actually dive more into boundaries in episode 79. So we sure to give that a listen. I will link that in the show notes below.
Number three, do not compromise your values. Many of us compromise our values to please others or to make others like us more. If we do this, we are not being our authentic self. I actually have a perfect recent example of this. If you haven't noticed, I've actually been incorporating my faith into a lot more of these episodes. That is authentic to me, and in doing so, I truly feel like I'm living out my calling and I'm embracing my real. But recently I got one of my first poor podcast reviews by a woman who was disappointed that I felt the need to incorporate my faith into a fitness podcast. Of course, my initial reaction was to think that I needed to stop doing it.
But then I realized by doing that, I would not be walking the walk. I would not be showing up as my most authentic self. And so if someone doesn't like me or this podcast, because I'm showing up authentically, then to be honest, it's okay if they don't like it. I'm not going to change myself simply because they don't like it. I'm going to remain authentic and remind myself that I don't need to be everybody's cup of tea. It is impossible to make everyone happy and I'm not going to try. And if you read the Bible, Jesus made a lot of people upset. In fact, he even declared in Matthew 5:10. He said, "Blessed are those who are persecuted for righteousness sake for theirs is the Kingdom of Heaven." And then also in First Peter, 2:20, it says, "If you suffer for doing good and you endure it, this is commendable before God."
And so the fact is if I'm showing up authentically, to be honest, it's okay. It's impossible to make everybody happy because at the same time, I also get countless reviews from listeners who said that they have been loving me incorporating my faith into these episodes. So I can't listen to one bad review and not pay attention to the hundreds of amazing other reviews that you guys are giving me. And just the encouragement that I've gotten from really incorporating my faith into this podcast. Like I can't thank you enough for just sharing your heart and saying thank you. And that these words are giving you hope, or giving you peace, or encouraging you, or inspiring you. So thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Just please do not compromise on your values.
Number four, check in on yourself often. How do you actually feel? Are you doing what makes you happy? Are you aligning your actions with your values and your goals? Are you pretending to be someone that you're not? Are you pretending that something is okay when it's not? Pay attention to where you may not be showing up as authentically as you could be and make a plan for how you can change that. Because ultimately in order to show up more authentically, you need to know when, where, and with who you are not showing up authentically and why. You've got to consistently check in with yourself to find out how and why, because oftentimes we have these little places in our lives or things that we're doing, and we may not even recognize that is actually bringing us down, that's actually compromising our values or what it is. But if we don't have those self check-ins on a weekly or biweekly basis, we're just going to continue to indulge in these activities that are truly not allowing us to show up as our most authentic self.
Number five, have your own opinion. Do not be afraid to have your own opinion. Believe it or not, people actually appreciate you more for having your opinion instead of just always agreeing with their opinion. We often don't want to tell people what they don't want to hear, but people actually value you more when you do tell them what they don't want to hear. So you have your own opinion, share it, be honest about it, as long as it is done gracefully and when necessary, of course, unsolicited advice and opinions are not fun.
But the next time that you have an opinion, but you're too scared to share it, ask yourself, why am I scared? And then I want you to challenge yourself to actually share what the real opinion is that you have on that specific topic. I promise it can be life changing and people will truly appreciate it so much. And it also opens up so many more conversation and so much more respect from other people because they say I might not agree with that, but I respect you for having your own opinion. And I respect you for having the courage to actually talk about things that are important to you.
Number six, don't hide your feelings for the sake of others. Being authentic means feeling your feelings, not hiding them or pretending to feel differently. If someone hurt your feelings, tell them. If someone made you angry, tell them. If someone is putting too much pressure on you, tell them. Whatever you are feeling, be open and honest about it. What is the point of hiding the way that you feel pretending everything is okay when it's not, and then building up resentment? No, we are not doing this anymore.
Number seven, do what you like to do more than what others like to do. What you do is just as important as what others do, whether it's your friends, your family, your significant other, your coworkers, you name it. It doesn't matter the situation or the circumstances, what you want matters. Start speaking up for how you want to spend your time or how you don't want to spend your time. Start speaking up about what things you want done or what things you don't want to be done. Start speaking up about the things that you want to do and the things that you don't want to do. This is truly a part of showing up more authentically and just communicating more. Whether that's professionally, that's personally, it's important that we tell people.
And again, this kind of goes back to the episode 79, that I will link in the show notes, but really just drawing those boundaries and having clear communication about those, having clear communication about the things that you do and don't want to do, the things that are important to you and the things that are not important to you. All of that is a part of showing up authentically. So let me recap those seven things.
Number one, don't feel like you need to please others.
Number two, don't let others disrespect your boundaries.
Number three, don't compromise on your values.
Number four, check in on yourself often.
Number five, have the courage to share your own opinion.
Number six, do not hide your feelings for the sake of others.
And number seven, do what you like to do more than what others like to do. Just have that clear, open communication.
How many of these things are you doing and which ones are you going to work on changing? I would love to know so be sure to screenshot this, post it up on your story and give me a tag, JulieALedbetter and Embrace Your Real account. We love connecting with you guys. We love hearing your aha moments. Again. I want 2022 to be the year that you show up as your most authentic self, the year that you feel like you are living in your most authentic skin. And it starts with doing these things. So I would love to hear your feedback. I would love to know what you're going to start implementing. And if you haven't already tuned in to episodes 79, 3 Things That Deserve Boundaries, or maybe you haven't tuned in a while, that was actually released a few years ago now, be sure to tune into that. I will link it in the show notes below. Thank you so much for tuning in to today's episode. And I'll talk to you in the next one.
All right sister, that's all I got for you today, but I have two things that I need you to do. First thing, if you are not already following me on the Gram, be sure to do so, JulieALedbetter. Yes, it's with an A in the middle, for that daily post-workout real talk, healthy tips and tricks and honest accountability to keep your mind and heart in check.
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